“How many in your party?”
“5, and thank you for seating us in a booth, I really appreciate it”
I don’t know if my parents knew, but I was always watching…
How they interacted in public, how they treated others, what they said and how they held themselves.
I’m sure they were tired and stressed out, maybe a little frustrated here and there. But at their foundation, good people and tried their best given the tools they had at the time.
And now as a parent, I make more of an effort to make sure my girls know they are loved, that I love their mother and that I love helping others.
I know they’re watching how I treat their mother. I want to set the foundation on how a man should treat them.
I know they’re watching me as I interact with each of their siblings. I want them to see that they are safe and protected and nothing they can do or say will change my love for them.
I know they’re watching how I treat others. I want them to learn that people are inherently good and that we all have struggles but together we can rise above.
With everything in the world fighting for my kids’ attention…
I understand that when it is on me, it’s important to be authentic.
It’s tough sometimes though. Especially when I’m tired…
But they see that too, and I explain to them that Dads get tired sometimes.
I also apologize to them when I’m short or when my attention drifts, so that they know adults can make mistakes too, and that no matter how tired anyone is, it doesn’t make words or tones that hurt feel any better.
I hope they learn that apologizing doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, but that you realize that you can be a better person.
I’ll continue to lead by example in hopes that they never stop watching.